In Her Name … (him too!)

You are Enough

We share tools and resources to help you and your loved ones cope with mental health issues, specifically depression, social anxiety, bullying, and suicide.

If you are considering hurting yourself, please call or text 988 now.

This is the third year I’ve been living without my Kathy, and the grief feels different this time. I don’t know what future years will bring, but this year it has been mostly a quiet, deep ache, one that lingers and at times feels like it physically hurts my heart. I’ve had many trips to the doctor this year because of these chest pains, and while I’m grateful to know my heart is healthy... it remains painfully broken from missing her.
From the very first day we lost Kathy, I began documenting my grief, and I revisited those writings, reflecting on my relationship with loss. Out of that reflection, I’ve created a book of poems about grief, grieving, and my personal journey through it all. The book is in its final stages of preparation for publication, and I’ll share more details as the launch date approaches.
With that said, I would like to thank you all for your continued support and for walking alongside me on this journey of grief.
If you or someone you know is struggling, please call or text the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.

Music Credit: Lauren Spencer Smith - Looking Up

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If you're in the Boca Raton area of Florida and are interested in joining a meetup to gain insights about depression, social anxiety, bullying, and suicide prevention, whether for yourself or your child, please reach out to us for details on the upcoming sessions.

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Your mental health matters.....always.
It’s okay not to be okay, but you don’t have to carry the weight alone. Asking for help is not a weakness; it’s a brave and powerful step toward healing. Reach out to a friend, family member, or mental health professional. You deserve support, compassion, and understanding.


If you or someone you know is in Mental distress, CALL or TEXT 988 or go to https://988lifeline.org for help.

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  • According to the WHO, suicide is the third leading cause of death among people ages 15–29. My Kathy is one of those heartbreaking numbers. I often wonder if I had known the warning signs, or if she had felt safe enough to share what was on her mind, maybe we could have saved her. There are so many “ifs.” I can’t turn back time or change what happened to Kathy and our family, but I share this in the hope that you will learn the warning signs and create a safe, supportive space for your loved ones who may be struggling with their mental health.

  • Book Launch, Coming Soon. Grieving You: Poems of Love and Loss. This is a verse from the poem “Do You Hear Me? The poem came to life after wondering, over and over... and over again, if Kathy hears me when I speak to her. I still speak to her all the time.. I don’t know if she hears me, but with all my heart, I hope she does. "I wonder if beyond the skies, You hear my voice, my quiet cries. Does love reach where the stars appear? My heart calls your name… And I wonder if you hear."

  • Each year, the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) organizes walks at college campuses, parks, and other community spaces across the country. These events raise awareness about the mental health crisis, provide resources for those in need, and create a supportive community for families and friends who have lost a loved one to suicide. For me, these walks are deeply personal... they give me the chance to honor Kathy’s memory and help break the stigma surrounding mental illness. To find a walk near you, visit the AFSP website and sign up. If you are already signed up, who are you walking for? I will be walking for my Kathy in a couple of weeks.

  • If you’re hurting, please know you don’t have to face it alone. Help is just a call or text away. By dialing 988, you’ll be connected with the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, where trained counselors are available 24/7 to listen, support, and walk with you through your pain. Reaching out is a sign of strength, not weakness. You are not alone, and you don’t have to go through this by yourself.

  • According to the CDC, more than 49,000 lives were lost to suicide in 2023... that’s one person every 11 minutes. Behind each number is a name, a story, a loved one. Let this be a reminder to check in on one another, to listen, to speak hope, and to let people know they’re not alone. Your presence could save a life.

  • Book Launch... Coming Soon. Grieving You... Poems of Love and Loss.

  • Never Coming Home is a poem about the moments I learned about Kathy’s passing and the phone call that altered my entire being. I share two verses from the poem with you... It’s real, it’s raw, it’s my reality. She is never coming home. 💔 Book Launch, Coming Soon. Grieving You. Poems of Love and Loss.

  • Suicide is not the answer. If you’re struggling, please call or text 988 right now. Help is available 24/7, free, confidential, and from people who will listen without judgment. Reach out to a friend, family member, mental health professional, or contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988. You don’t have to face this alone. There is hope, and there is help

  • So many people struggle in silence because they fear judgment or feel ashamed of their pain... especially males. The truth is that asking for help is not a sign of weakness, but rather an act of strength and courage. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, talk to your family, your friends, or someone you trust. You don’t have to carry the weight alone. And remember, support is always available: call or text 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. It’s free, confidential, and open 24/7 to listen, support, and guide you through your hardest moments. You are not alone in this journey. Reaching out is the first step toward healing, and your life is worth that step.

  • You don’t have to go through your mental health struggles alone. If you’re struggling with depression, suicidal thoughts, or any mental health challenge, please know that support is out there. Call or text 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, free, confidential, and available 24/7. It is brave to ask for help. Reaching out takes courage, and it shows strength, not weakness. Your mental health matters. ❤️

  • Talking about suicide can save lives. It’s okay to ask the difficult questions. Asking someone if they are thinking about suicide will not put the idea in their head; instead, it gives them a safe space to share what they’re going through. When we listen without judgment and show compassion, we remind others that they are not alone and that help is available.

  • You can help stop suicide by reaching out to your loved ones who may be struggling with their mental health. A simple call, text, or visit could be the lifeline they need, the reminder that they matter, that they are not alone, and that they have a reason to STAY.

  • Your mental health matters. Please don’t be afraid to reach out and speak to your family or a mental health professional if you’re struggling. You don’t have to go through it alone. You can also call or text 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline and speak with a counselor anytime, day or night. It’s free, confidential, and available 24/7. Asking for help is a sign of strength. You are not alone.

  • Many people are struggling with their mental health, including those in the LGBTQ+ community. Recently, I shared that resources and support for LGBTQ+ individuals at the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline are being reduced or eliminated. This makes the work of organizations like @trevorproject more important than ever. They provide life-saving crisis support and advocacy for LGBTQ+ youth. Please consider visiting their page or website to donate, share resources, or get involved. Together, we can ensure no one in the LGBTQ+ community feels alone.

  • Silence can be dangerous, but open, honest conversations about suicide can bring hope, connection, and help. Asking someone if they’re okay, listening without judgment, and encouraging them to seek support can make all the difference. You don’t have to have all the answers; you just have to be there.

  • “If everything around seems dark, look again, you may be the light.” ― Rumi You are enough, just as you are. ❤️

  • More than 720,000 people die by suicide every year, according to the World Health Organization; that is one life lost every 40 seconds, and countless families, friends, and communities are forever changed. But suicide is preventable. By breaking the stigma, learning the warning signs, and reaching out with compassion, we can save lives.

  • Suicide can be prevented when we know the warning signs and take them seriously. If you or someone you love is struggling, reach out, ask for help, and let others know you care. Checking in on your loved ones, listening without judgment, and offering support can make all the difference. You are not alone. Call or text 988 to connect with trained crisis counselors who are available 24/7. They can help you find hope, guidance, and resources for your mental health needs.

  • Life is tough, but so are you. Even the strongest people face moments of struggle. Remember, you don’t have to carry it all alone. If you’re having a hard time with your mental health, it’s okay, and it’s brave to ask for help. You are stronger than you think, and you are never alone.

  • We can help stop suicide. It starts with learning the warning signs, listening without judgment, and showing up for the people in our lives who are struggling with their mental health. Sometimes, just knowing someone cares can make all the difference. We also need to break the stigma around mental illness. No one should ever feel afraid or ashamed to ask for help. Mental health is just as important as physical health, and seeking support is a sign of strength, not weakness.

  • Suicide prevention starts with all of us; it begins with compassion, listening, and checking in on the people around us. A simple text, a call, or asking “How are you really doing?” can open the door for someone who feels alone. We may not have all the answers, but we all have the power to show kindness, offer support, and remind others that their lives matter.

  • I highly recommend The Let Them Theory book if you are struggling with your mental health or have a loved one who is struggling. The book reminds us that we don't have to control everything or everyone.... and so much more.

  • Let’s be better humans. So many people are silently struggling with their mental health, carrying pain we may never see. A smile can hide sadness, and a laugh can hide loneliness. You never truly know what someone is going through. That is why kindness matters. A small act of compassion, a gentle word, or simply choosing empathy can make a world of difference in someone’s life.

  • Pretending to be okay when you’re not is exhausting, and it’s not the answer. If you’re struggling with your mental health, please don’t suffer in silence. You don’t have to put on a brave face or carry the weight alone. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of strength. It means you are choosing to fight for yourself, to heal, and to hope. You are not alone. Talk to someone you trust, reach out to a therapist, or call or text 988 to speak with a trained crisis counselor 24/7. Your pain is real; your life matters, and help is available.

  • "Some losses change our entire world... forever." by Jenna Lowthert Losing someone you love to suicide is a kind of pain that words can’t fully capture. It is a grief that reshapes everything, your memories, your milestones, even how you see the world. The questions, the what-ifs, and the heartbreak never truly go away. You learn to carry the weight, but it never truly leaves you. If you have experienced this kind of loss, please know your grief is valid. Your love for them does not end; talking about them, saying their name, sharing your story are powerful ways of remembering them and healing.

  • It’s heartbreaking that dedicated support for the LGBTQ+ community was removed today from the 988 National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Everyone deserves to feel seen, heard, and supported, especially during moments of crisis. Please know you can still reach out to 988 and ask for help. Your identity is valid, your feelings matter, and your life is worth fighting for. You are not alone. Please reach out. ❤️

  • The semicolon (;) is more than just a punctuation mark... it is a powerful symbol of hope and continuation. In writing, a semicolon is used when an author could have ended a sentence, but chose not to. In life, it represents a moment when someone could have given up, but chose to keep going. For many, the semicolon is a reminder that their story isn’t over. It is used to honor those who struggle with mental health, to remember those we have lost to suicide, and to support those still fighting.

  • We live in a world where people post happy pictures but hide their pain in silence. Smiles can be deceiving, and sometimes the ones who seem the happiest are quietly struggling the most. Check on your happy friends. Check on the strong ones, the funny ones, the ones who always say, “I’m fine.” A simple message, a kind word, or just being there can make more of a difference than you know. Everyone needs support, especially those who seem like they don’t.

  • When you say their name, you're not reminding us that they died, you are showing us that you remember they lived. That their life meant something, that they are still loved, still remembered, and still a part of our story. Speaking their name keeps their memory alive. It brings comfort, not pain to most of us. So please, don’t be afraid to say their name. It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give to those of us who are grieving. However, there are times when saying their names can be triggering for some, especially in moments of deep grief. Please be mindful and gentle. Everyone’s journey with loss is different, and honoring that difference is an act of compassion.

  • Depression is real. It’s not just sadness, and it’s not something you can “snap out of.” If you’re struggling, please know that you’re not alone and you don’t have to go through it in silence. Asking for help is a brave and powerful step. Talk to someone you trust, reach out to a mental health professional, or call/text 988 to connect with someone who understands and cares. The 988 Lifeline is available 24/7 and completely free. You are worthy of help.

  • Suicide is not the answer. No matter how heavy things feel right now, there is help, there is hope, and there are people who care about you. You don’t have to face this alone. Please, reach out. Talk to someone you trust or call or text 988 to connect with a trained crisis counselor, 24/7 and free. Your life matters more than you know. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. You deserve support and healing.

  • If you are struggling with thoughts of suicide, please know that talking about it can save your life. You don't have to carry the weight alone. Opening up to someone whether it’s a trusted friend, family member, therapist, or trained counselor can be the first step toward healing. Support is always available. You can call or text 988 anytime to connect with compassionate professionals who are available to listen and help, 24/7, at no cost. You are not a burden, you are not alone, and your life matters more than you know. Reaching out could change everything.

  • Love is powerful, but sometimes the weight of depression is too heavy for even the deepest love to heal alone. That is why it is important to learn the warning signs of depression and suicidal thoughts and to check on your loved ones who are struggling with their mental health...in their moments of darkness, your kind words and caring actions could save their lives.

  • Suicide is a Leading Cause of Death in the U.S. According to the CDC, over 49,000 lives were lost to suicide in 2023 which is an average of one every 11 minutes. Suicide is the top 11 causes of death nationally, and remains the 2nd leading cause for individuals ages 10–34.

  • Men, your mental health matters. Too many men ignore their struggles because of fear or shame, believing they have to “tough it out” or stay silent. But it takes strength to acknowledge when you are hurting and courage to ask for help. You don’t have to do this alone. It’s okay to open up and to seek support. Your feelings matter and your life matters.

  • If you're looking for a sign to stay alive, this is it! You are enough just as you are and your life matters. Please reach out to your loved ones and a mental health professional if you are struggling with your mental health. You can also call or text 988 for help.

  • People who are depressed or suicidal may not always say they’re struggling, but they often show signs nonverbally. Recognizing these behaviors can help you intervene early and potentially save a life.

  • Your mental health matters. Please ask for help if you are struggling with your mental health. Call or text 988 to speak to a counselor 24/7.

  • Robin Williams's powerful message has a profound impact on mental health: “Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about; be kind, always.” Many people carry invisible burdens such as depression, anxiety, trauma, and grief. You may not see their struggles, but your kindness could be the light they need during dark moments. We can listen without judgment and show compassion to one another. As Robin Williams wisely said, "Let's be kind. Always." You never know whose life it might save.

  • Strength isn’t about staying silent, it’s about having the courage to ask for help and to share your story. Every man deserves the space to talk about what he’s going through without judgment. It’s time to change the conversation...Don’t say “Man up.” ....Say “Speak up.” We need to break the stigma so people don't feel afraid or ashamed to ask for help.

  • You Are Enough.... just as you are. You don’t need to have it all figured out and you don’t need to be perfect. Nobody is perfect. Check in with yourself. Make space for rest and ask for help when you need it.

  • Mental health doesn't discriminate, yet men are often left struggling in silence. The Facts: 1 in 8 men will experience a mental health condition such as depression, anxiety, or PTSD in their lifetime. Men are less likely than women to seek help for mental health struggles. In many countries, including the UK, the US, and Australia, suicide is one of the leading causes of death in men under 50. In the U.S., around 75% of all suicide deaths are men. Let us normalize mental health support for men.

Stop Suicide

We can help stop suicide. It starts with learning the warning signs, listening without judgment, and showing up for the people in our lives who are struggling with their mental health. Sometimes, just knowing someone cares can make all the difference. We also need to break the stigma around mental illness. No one should ever feel afraid or ashamed to ask for help. Mental health is just as important as physical health, and seeking support is a sign of strength, not weakness.


If you or someone you know is in Mental distress, CALL or TEXT 988 or go to https://988lifeline.org for help.

Love is Love

Many people are struggling with their mental health, including those in the LGBTQ+ community. I previously shared that resources and support for LGBTQ+ individuals at the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline are being reduced or eliminated. This makes the work of organizations like @trevorproject more important than ever. They provide life-saving crisis support and advocacy for LGBTQ+ youth. Please consider visiting their page or website to make a donation, share resources, or get involved. Together, we can ensure no one in the LGBTQ+ community feels alone.

If you or someone you know is in Mental distress, CALL or TEXT 988 or go to https://988lifeline.org for help.

Talking About Suicide Can Save Lives

Silence can be dangerous, but open, honest conversations about suicide can bring hope, connection, and help. Asking someone if they’re okay, listening without judgment, and encouraging them to seek support can make all the difference. You don’t have to have all the answers; you just have to be there.


If you or someone you know is in Mental distress, CALL or TEXT 988 or go to https://988lifeline.org for help.

Kindness

Being kind to others is powerful. You never truly know what someone may be going through, especially when it comes to their mental health. A simple act of kindness can bring comfort and hope in ways we may never realize. Mark Twain once said that kindness is a language “the deaf can hear and the blind can see.” It speaks to the heart, crosses barriers, and can change a life. Choose kindness today; your words and actions might mean more than you’ll ever know. ❤️

If you or someone you know is in Mental distress, CALL or TEXT 988 or go to https://988lifeline.org for help.

This is Alberto … and this is his story

Thank you @Alberto Suarez for having the strength to make the right decision. You are an amazing person, and I wish only the best for you in this new journey. As for your voice note, it brought tears to my eyes and peace to my soul, knowing that the work I am doing on behalf of my Kathy is making a difference.

Thank you for staying!

A suicide prevention safety plan is a personalized, practical tool to help guide you through difficult moments. It provides clear steps you can follow to keep yourself safe when you're feeling overwhelmed, depressed, or having thoughts of suicide. Creating a step-by-step plan in advance can make a big difference. When a crisis hits, you will have a guide to help you focus, find support, and move toward safety one step at a time. Make sure your safety plan is easy to access when you need it most. Whether it's written down or saved on your phone, having it ready can be a powerful way to protect yourself in moments of distress.

Here is the link for a PDF version of the plan. https://988lifeline.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/08/SafetyPlan_SAMHSA.pdf

For more information, please go to https://988lifeline.org.

Suicide Prevention Plans Work

Latest Blogs…In Her Name

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Suicide Prevention is Everyday

As we come together to share our stories of loved ones we lost to suicide, we do so in the hopes of helping others through their darkest moments. The first part of this video is of Kathy’s dad walking in the Pyrenees to honor Kathy’s 27th birthday in 2024 and the second part is one of his life’s greatest moments in 2019 … their father-daughter dance. 💔

What People Are Saying About Us

  • "Thank you for what you are doing. I looked at your site last night, and it is powerful. Please keep it up. Truly, you are an angel to be doing this work. It would be easy to sit around and grieve, but you are making a difference. I truly believe you will save lives. I have suffered from depression throughout my life, so I know how important it is to raise awareness and get people help. You are doing something amazing. I love your compassion for other families."

  • “Thank you for creating this page. My best friend suffered from mental health issues and took his life in January, and pages like this, if he had followed them or known about more of them, could have saved his life. Unfortunately, it didn’t work that way with him, but I’m so glad you exist to help others struggling. So, thank you. Pages like this are helpful to so many people, I’m glad they exist, and I’m glad you exist.”

  • “You have a perspective as a parent. Sometimes it's hard for youth today to educate adults because many adults think, "you're too young to understand." I strongly believe having a narrative from your perspective can make more adults/parents open to listening and engaging with the topic of mental health and its importance.”

  • "Thank you for being a voice in this that is so needed not just for me but for many of us suffering. Especially in a world that still doesn’t want to believe mental illnesses are real. So thank you for your heart and hard work, especially your kind words and guidance. I truly do appreciate you and your help, your voice, and your heart. I can’t thank you enough for being you and helping the world as much as you do."

  • "Some people let grief swallow them, but you continue to create beauty amidst your pain. Thank you for making a difference in the world. Your flowers remind me of the hope you are giving to others through your advocacy."

  • “Thank you for sharing this and for all that you are doing. I’m so sorry for your loss. As a person of faith, I am confident that she rejoices in every effort you are making to help others in her name, and will delight in sharing that joy with you one day.”

  • "Your page really resonated with me. I lost my brother to suicide in March, and it’s been difficult, to say the least. Thank you for spreading awareness."

  • “I checked out your profile, and your page and message are super powerful and so needed! Thank you for sharing.”

  • “I found your page here while looking for inspirational places after I lost my daughter to suicide. What you do is invaluable.”

  • "I love what you’re doing. One more person we help is one less person we lose to this disease!”

  • "Your website and all of your posts are amazing. I was looking at it earlier. I really think you are making a difference. Your post is helping others, and I know it helps me."

  • "Thanks for trying to help! I lost a nephew to suicide a year ago. It’s hard to find information to share that is sensitive to my family, which is still grieving his loss."

  • "Thank you so much for sharing these tips because social anxiety is something that I constantly struggle with. I will try some of these suggestions."

  • "Thank you for posting such great things all the time! I appreciate you."

  • There needs to be more light shined on this matter. Keep up the good work! The world needs your messages!

Check Out Our Interview With CanvasRebel Magazine

We had the pleasure of being interviewed by CanvasRebel Magazine. If you would like to learn about the background of In Her Name, our WHY, and a bit about the founder, click HERE. This is our first interview for In Her Name, so please share your comments and/or feedback. Thanks, and as always... BE KIND!

Here are some snippets from the interview:

“I could have prevented it if I had known that some of Kathy’s behaviors were symptomatic and indicative of severe depression. After this revelation, I made a personal commitment to raise awareness and help others suffering from mental health issues.”

“Together, we can work towards a future where mental health is openly discussed and supported, bringing comfort and assistance to those who need it the most.”

“During a long and fulfilling career in higher education, I found myself at a crossroads. In April 2022, I faced a heartbreaking tragedy when I lost my stepdaughter to suicide. This devastating event forced me to reevaluate my life’s direction.”

“After 40-plus hours of traveling, the plane landed in the US, and without words, my red puffy eyes and runny nose told a story of despair and loss.”

https://canvasrebel.com/meet-dr-michelle-v-boodoo/

When we are experiencing voices in our head or can hear our self we just need to stop, breath and pray and meditate to bring us some peace.

Self-Help Tools

Tools, resources, and a support network could help you cope with mental health issues and are essential for getting help to move forward. Click here to find tools and resources provided by 988lifeline.org.

If you or someone you know is in immediate distress or is thinking about hurting themselves, CALL or TEXT the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988 or the toll-free TTY number at 1-800-799-4TTY (4889). or go to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline website at https://988lifeline.org

Having love from mom or grandmother can make all the difference in the world and we just need to open up to them so they know we need help.

Tools for Loved Ones

Tools, resources, and a support network could help your loved ones cope with mental health issues and are essential for getting help to move forward. Click here to find tools and resources provided by 988lifeline.org.

If you or someone you know is in immediate distress or is thinking about hurting themselves, CALL or TEXT the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988 or the toll-free TTY number at 1-800-799-4TTY (4889). or go to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline website at https://988lifeline.org

Have you ever said "I need a friend" only to find out there are people all around us that need and want friends.

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Sharing information and resources about mental health issues, specifically depression, suicide prevention, social anxiety, and bullying, is what we do at In Her Name. If you are interested in collaborating or volunteering with us to help others in need, send us a message, and we will connect with you.

<>Inhale Positivity <> Exhale Negativity

<>Inhale Positivity <> Exhale Negativity

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